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Miracle Baby Video

I just watched this video on the internet and decided to share it because it is such a wonderful reminder and comfort to know that GOD IS STILL IN THE BUSINESS OF MIRACLES!

Let's try to remember this little girl the next time we are worried and think something is too big for God to fix.  Let us remember that today and every day from here on out that God can win over death itself.

Praise be to God!

Why is it so hard to love the Black Sheep?

Over the past months I have witnessed many circumstances where someone whom is loved very much is behaving in ways that go against Biblical values. 

Some families would label these individuals as the 'Black Sheep' of the family, indicating that their conduct was unacceptable and not in line with the expected behavior.  

Although many of us may have gone through a phase of life where we had been identified as the Black Sheep, we may have been able to quickly change our rebellious actions. Some individuals however, make this a long term lifestyle choice where they maintain their rebellious behavior.  This can be painfully hard to deal with as a friend or family member.

I've had several discussions with friends and family regarding how to respond with the individual who has chosen to be the Black Sheep.  This is especially challenging when it happens with a spouse, child, sibling, or close friend.  When the ones we love the most in our inner circle act unlovable or do the unthinkable, it can be difficult to decide how to respond since we see them on a regular basis.

What do you do if.....

Your Son's doing drugs, your best friend is having an affair, your cousin becomes the spokesperson for a cause that goes against your morals beliefs, or your brother is addicted to pornography?

These are just a few examples of potential scenarios. My goal is not to address the steps to take in dealing with each of these issues and resolving them....that is another topic for another day. 

What I do want to speak about is how we hold these individuals in our heart after we find out that they are doing things that go against our moral code.

Are we to withdraw our love, time, and possibly affection from the Black Sheep seeing them only occasionally for what they've done or are still doing? Are we to cut them out of our lives completely and avoid all contact? Or, should we love them continually in spite of their behaviors, realizing that the action of the Black Sheep is inappropriate and/or sinful, and we can hate the sin and still love the sinner?  

Making this decision regarding our response can be a struggle because we can be concerned that our acts of kindness might be interpreted as approving their rebellious behavior.  

When it hits close to home and you're faced with dealing with the Black Sheep on a regular basis, you soon realize that you can't just avoid them. You will discover that you must confront the issue of how you're going to manage the relationship from this point forward with this individual. 

When I was a very small child I was driving in the car with my Grandma and I said "I hate ______ she is mean to me!" and my Grandmother calmly and quickly corrected me and said "Honey, you shouldn't hate people, we can hate the things that they do, but not them." 

I didn't really like that answer because I was mad at this person and I wanted to be mad at them. I thought about it briefly and went about my day leaving all of it behind. The funny thing I am, almost 30 years later, and I still remember that conversation with my Grandma and her wise counsel. It has come to my mind many times over the course of my life. I have been given more than one opportunity to apply this principal to my life.

Living in a fallen world of imperfect people, (of which I am one) it is inevitable that someone we love deeply will do something that goes against everything that we believe. The question is, can we love them even if we don't like what they are doing?

When I was going through my time of Black Sheep rebellion, God gently reminded me that He has continued to love me even though I have had many times of acting in ways that surely broke his heart.

As the Scriptures instruct us, He has called His children to love one another the same way He loves us. 

John 13:34-35 
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

This can be a tough pill to swallow, because this is much easier said that done. Can we still love our friends and family and separate our love for them from the things that they do? Can we continue to act out our love in tangible ways even when they are in the midst of what we believe to be unlovable? Based on the Scripture we just read, the answer is... 

Yes we can! 

It is not always easy, but the beauty for those who follow Jesus is that He gives the strength to do the things that we cannot do on our own. And LOVE is a high priority for our God, because God is Love.

1 John 4:8 
"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."

God shows us throughout His Word that we can do this without compromising our own convictions. We do not have to agree with the actions or lifestyle of the Black Sheep, but we can love them anyway.

Jesus faced a similar situation when the scribes and Pharisees brought him a woman who had been caught in adultery. She was a classic example of a woman labelled as a Black Sheep.  We know how God feels about adultery as the Bible says:

Proverbs 6:28, 29, 32
"Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man's wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished. But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself." 

And yet, in the book of John, Jesus was responding to them about the adulterous woman, and after they reminded Him that the Law of Moses required them to stone the woman, He asked them:

John 8:7,10,11
"He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." and when everyone started to leave and He was left alone with the woman He said to her, "Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?" She said, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said, "I do not condemn you either Go from now on and sin no more." 

Jesus was aware of her sin, there was no doubt, and the scribes and Pharisees made sure He remembered.

This is much like our family, friends, and acquaintances who decide it is their responsibility to remind us of all that is going wrong in the life of the Black Sheep we love.

Should we be the one's to condemn the Black Sheep?  I don't think so. If indeed they are having an action worthy of condemnation, it is not our job to do the condemning. God's Word tells us that it is the responsibility of the Holy Spirit to do these things:

John 16:8
"And He, when He comes, will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment"

I will leave you with this thought...."Is there a Black Sheep in your life? Can you keep showing them love? If you don't, there may never be another person on earth that will. Love is more powerful than we understand, and it may take years but it's a seed that once planted...will likely bloom into a beautiful flower."

Galatians 5:22-23
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."

Amazing Fellowship

I am blessed to have a wonderful group of women friends....this top photo is only a small portion from my Tuesday night Bible Study group.  We are women of different ages, different denominations, different marital status', and different personalities, and yet we all fit!

I am also blessed with another group of friends, which come from other it parents I met while my son was playing a sport or in a club, or women I met from working with them.  I am blessed BEYOND BEYOND in the realm of women friends.   I wish I could post a photo of every one of them....but surely some will threaten my life if I posted photos without their permission.  I'm already walking a line with the one at the top...because we women can be so picky about these things.  Ha!  (I only know because I spent a whole day after my wedding crying over photos that people had posted to Facebook which I thought looked terrible and I was pretty sure I just wanted to die....yes vain...yes terribly ridiculous...and yes....true.  So Sad really!)

Ok, back on track.....I have been feeling the loss of my fellowship of friends since having surgery.  I haven't been attending church, going to Bible Study, or even being in the same sort of regular contact that I normally am with my friends.  I miss them....AND....I miss the way God uses us to lift up and inspire, encourage and admonish, love and support one another!

I had a friend call me this last week.  She knew that my throat was hurting since surgery, so she called and said right after my 'Hello'...."I know your throat hurts, don't say anything...I just want to pray for you!"  How awesome is that right!?!?  This friend is battling heart wrenching trials of her own, but this is how I believe God designed us, especially as minister to each other in a way that we understand.  The way that a man might call touchy feely.

I had another friend who took me out, as I was not ready to drive yet, to shop for a Birthday gift for my husband....I had been having some rough days....and as we stood in the card isle we laughed so hard that I was crying and was seriously beginning to worry that I might wet my pants....she was bringing me the funniest cards.  They didn't pertain to my husband's Birthday, but they were funny and we both needed a good laugh!  We felt like it was good medicine!  I felt like a school girl laughing with my best friend over something secretly funny to only us....and truth be told, if I were to show you the cards we laughed so hard at the other day....they might not even seem funny now.  But in that moment they sure did, and I think that God knew that we both needed a good laugh!

I have been blessed with phone calls and messages from Alaska, to Canada, Hawaii, and local friends lifting me in prayer and offering words of encouragement.  

Though I have walked through many trials, God has been FAITHFUL to bring along those to encourage me in my journey.  

Friendship is a blessing, and tough times show you just who your true friends are....the ones to walk through thick and thin....who show up when life gets ugly and standing beside you isn't like a trip to Disneyland.  I believe that God teaches me how to be a better friend myself by the examples of friendship around me. 

I think the old saying is true, 'if you want to find a good friend, you must first learn to BE a good friend.'  I'm not sure who said that or where it came from, but I believe it to be true.

Who might you be able to encourage today?  I'm inspired to bless about you?


I would love to hear your ideas of how to bless and encourage others.  We might just spark a movement of blessing...sort of like doing the 'wave' at a baseball game.  (do they still even do that?)

May God bless YOU with a friend that is handpicked by God to be a great blessing and encouragement! 


As I am walking through the process of discovery, how to get my blog listed in search engines, blog directories, and any other thing that will help to direct people to my blog, I've found that I've spent about 4 hours or more just tonight going through this process.

I was getting frustrated at how I was going to make a new post and include the tag RYUM3TYSYA3C so that a certain blog directory could verify that I was indeed the owner of my blog, and I realized that I needed to have a little extra patience.

I've recently been through my second surgery this year and our family has big changes on the horizon and this is one drop of water in the sea of I'm going to let it go and exchange it for the joy of the Lord.

This my friends is my attempt to take my thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ.  I am going to focus on the fact that I am blessed to be able to see with my eyes, type with my fingers, and have a working laptop (which is not always the case) to write my blog entry on.

Today I choose not to let Satan steal my joy over a silly rule from a Blog directory!

2 Corinthians 10:5

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.